I think Arabic is one of the most polite languages on this earth. Don’t get me wrong it can also be very harsh when it wants to be. But I’ll save our stories of rough encounters for another post insha’Allah. For now let me tell you about the nice people…
Incident #1: We’re riding in a taxi with an elderly cab driver and as he’s driving us we’re all speaking in English in the back. Then my friend tries to tell the driver to stop so she says, “3aleh gammeh” and he corrects her with a light chuckle and says very slowly, “3ala Gamb”. He picked up that we were Arabic Students so he patiently taught us the correct way to say it. Then when we got out of the cab and my friend handed him the money he says in Arabic to leave it, like he wasn’t going to accept payment from us. So she insisted and he kept refusing to take it until finally he accepted it. I found this to a very polite gesture because from what I’ve heard and seen so far, most Egyptians are all about money, but masha’Allah he was different.
Incident #2: One of my roommates and I took a taxi to the airport today because she wanted to say goodbye to a sister she knows who was leaving back to England. When we finished and we went outside to take a taxi home my roommate goes up to a cab driver and tells him where we want to go and asks if he’ll take us for 15 guinneh (Egyptian pounds). He appeared to be very practicing taxi driver, according to his dress..and so he says no to 15 guinneh. We thought he was being a typical Egyptian taxi driver and that he was trying to demand more fare. So imagine our surprise when he says, “3ashara!” (ten!). My friend looks at him like she heard wrong and repeats the number 15 to him but he insists to take us for less and says, “3ashara!”. Masha’Allah for once we got a cab driver who didn’t rip us off. We ended up paying him 20 at the end of our ride, just because of that.
Incident #3: Another taxi story (sorry but a lot of our day is spent riding in taxis, that’ll soon change though once we move next week insha’Allah). We were riding home from somewhere and it was really hot out, so the cab driver got his water bottle out and took a swig. Before closing the lid though he offered his water to the rest of us (we politely refused of course). That’s when one of the sisters whose lived here for a while said that it’s customary for the drivers to offer you their water if they drink it in front of you. Masha’Allah! I love it when practices from the Sunnah are embedded into the everyday customs of the people.
Incident #4: After receiving a job offer to teach at a school here, two of my friends accepted it and I was left with the choice to either join them in accepting the offer or turning down the offer. After consulting with my wise mother (may Allah give her Jannah) I decided to turn down the job offer for fear that it might take away from my energy and objective to study full time here. Yesterday morning I called the administrator to tell her I wouldn’t be coming in that day to sign the contract because I’d decided not to take the job. To my surprise she was very sweet to me and she said, “Alia, we are friends now and I want you to know I wish you were joining our staff at the school but even though you’re not, I wish you the best. I’m here for you and if you ever need anything during your stay in Egypt please call my mobile any time!” Masha’Allah! I was very impressed at her hospitality considering I’d only met her once.
In general the people here have a very charming way of speaking. Egyptian dialect is very light hearted and I find that it suits their personalities to the tee. They’re ready to find something to joke about at almost any moment. For the most part I don’t think the men have a staring problem like they do in my dad’s country.
After buying something from a shop, the salesperson says to us, “Mabrook!” to congratulate us on our buy. Almost everyone, including taxi drivers, will always reply to your salaam (which is a big deal for me because in my dad’s country people have abandoned the wajib of replying to salaam).
Alhamdulillah for the above incidents and I hope to experience many more…
Ramadans coming up so let’s hope it brings out the best in our manners insha’Allah.